my ink dance

discovering extraordinary grace in an ordinary life

5 Ways To Help Someone Who Is Struggling – Part 1

5 ways to help someone who is struggling

When we realize we cannot save someone else, we are left with the question: What can we do? The quick answer is LOVE…but what does that look like in real life? We need practical suggestions for helping someone in crisis or struggling through a difficult time. Things that we feel like we can really do, […]

Books That Changed Me


There are words that sit flat on a page, entertaining, but never really moving. And then there are words that rise up from the ink and paper and settle somewhere deep, in heart or mind changing you for a moment or a lifetime. I recently wrote about an article I read that inspired me to […]

When The Storm Is Consuming You


I’m struggling lately. All twisted up and unsure of what to do next. Unsure of what direction to go. Unsure that I even belong. Have you ever been there? I know that all sounds vague, but the reality is the problem doesn’t matter. For me, right now, it involves writing. It involves where to invest my […]

5 Lessons from “The Gifts of Imperfection”

Gifts Lessons

Sometimes we are lucky enough to find books that offer us an insight into who we are. Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection had me hooked at the subtitle: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to be and Embrace Who You Are. YES! I want that! Reading the book I found myself nodding my […]

You Can’t Save Anyone


I have been watching people I love struggle. They are going through big, hard to understand, and harder to fix, things. So I rolled up my sleeves to get to work. I did all I could. When they needed someone, I was there. When they needed to talk, I listened. When they needed a solution, I […]

How To Have The Best Summer Ever

Best Summer

I’m watching calendar days fly by, and I’m filled with equal parts excitement and dread. Our family routines will all change in just a few short weeks when spring becomes summer. And let’s not kid ourselves into thinking this starts on June 21. No, summer starts around here the moment the kids are done with […]

I’m A Fraud


I sit here stringing together words to encourage you. Words that are honest and vulnerable, that hopefully leave you feeling encouraged or less alone in this complicated world. Today, I feel like a fraud. For me, it feels easy to be open about real feelings and thoughts. It is part of who I am. I’ve […]

What I Learned in May

5 things learned may '16

Life can get busy. You know this. Our days are filled with good and not-so-good things, yet we barely have time to process them, to take something of value from the joy or the heartache. Maybe it’s time we change that. In no particular order, here are 5 things I learned this month. 1. Getting […]

Who Are You?

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Who do you think you are? The voice whispers condescending in my ear. I know why it was a snake in the garden. It’s something about the hiss. My answer comes slow and quiet. On shaky knees I reply, “I am a child of the Father.” Are you really? Yes? Yes. But somehow the question […]

The End of a Friendship


There are times when a friendship ends naturally, organically. It’s life moving on and changing. But other times a friendship is purposefully terminated, ripped away and ended abruptly like a bad breakup in middle school. It’s been almost a year since a friend broke up with me. I haven’t talked about it much because it […]