My Ink Dance

Discovering Extraordinary Grace in an Ordinary Life

When You Fail at What You Set Out To Do

I set a goal. It was big and scary, but needed to be done. I wanted to achieve this, so I decided that I would finish the first draft of my novel by the end of 2015.


Well, that isn’t entirely true. I had decided I would finish it in 2009 and again in 2012 and again and again it has never happened. I’ve progressed. But I’ve never actually finished it.

And 2015 was no different.

These first days of 2016 have been a nagging reminder of what I didn’t accomplish. The goal I didn’t meet. But then I remembered….


And here is where the rubber meets the road in this choosing a word for the year business.

I could wallow in my inadequacy, my unmet goal, my disappointment in myself. Or I could move forward in grace.

Maybe you’re not a writer, but chances are you do something. You may work at a big corporation or the school cafeteria. You may cut hair or drive a bus. You may get the kids where they need to be or teach a whole class of them. The things you do may not even come with a paycheck. But whatever it is, I’m guessing you’ve disappointed yourself (and maybe even someone else) somewhere along the way.

We all have.

The choice in front of us when that happens is what are we going to do? Stay in that place of disappointment or give ourselves some grace?

Grace is not an excuse to let goals pass by one after another. Grace gives us a positive way to try again.

Climb Out

How can you give yourself grace in what you do today?

Me? Well, I’ve got a new goal and started writing.

That’s grace in the real world.

This is the first post in a series: Grace In the Real World. Come back to see parts 2 & 3 later this month!

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

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