My Ink Dance

Discovering Extraordinary Grace in an Ordinary Life

When It Feels Like Everyone Is Having More Fun

My Facebook feed is full of amazing pictures of people traveling this week. Beautiful, warm places that make me want to sink my feet in the sand and watch a sunset. But the sand here is cold and I feel like I’m missing out.

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Sometimes we look around us and it seems like everyone else is doing more. They’re traveling or going out. They’re dressed up or with friends. They’re having fun.

And we’re not.

It’s not that we never have fun. But there’s real life here on this side of the screen. Laundry spinning and a floor that needs to be cleaned. Work to get done and kids that need to get places. The ordinary next to the extraordinary only seems more plain.

You may have heard the quotes to make you feel better. Things about highlight reels and watering the grass. But the truth is we will only feel better if we want to feel better.

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I may not be able to go on that tropical vacation right now, but maybe I can go walk by the water and let the salty wind blow through my hair.

Maybe I can’t go out with friends every weekend, but I can find a time to invite some friends over.

Taking my kids to see a Broadway show may not be feasible, but I can find a local production and enjoy that with them.

Sometimes the very thing stopping us from having fun is the idea we hold in our head of what it should look like. When we can stop comparing and start living grateful we open up a world of opportunities. They may not look the same as everyone else’s, but maybe they aren’t supposed to.

Find a way today to choose fun, within the realistic parameters of your life. You don’t need permission to have fun. You only need to stop comparing your life with those around you and create a way to enjoy what you have.


This comparison game is one I play all too well, and I am seeking grace upon grace to move past. I wrote about running my own race last week, but I admit it is not always easy.  I’d love to know if comparison is something you struggle with.

About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I’m here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

2 Replies

  1. Wow! I could relate to this post so much!

    Beth Moore has a saying, “Take that to the spiritual bank!” Well, that is exactly what I am doing with your statement,

    “Sometimes the very thing stopping us from having fun is the idea we hold in our head of what it should look like. When we can stop comparing and start living grateful we open up a world of opportunities. They may not look the same as everyone else’s, but maybe they aren’t supposed to.”

    Thank you so much for sharing!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you so much for being here Karen! I find I need to remind myself of the very things in this statement every day!

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