My Ink Dance

Discovering Extraordinary Grace in an Ordinary Life

The End of a Friendship

There are times when a friendship ends naturally, organically. It’s life moving on and changing. But other times a friendship is purposefully terminated, ripped away and ended abruptly like a bad breakup in middle school.

It’s been almost a year since a friend broke up with me. I haven’t talked about it much because it hurt. But more than that, it made me think.


I’ve thought about the why and the how and the what could I have done differently. I’ve wondered about my role and if I was in the wrong. But more than that it’s made me wonder about sin.

The friend that broke up with me wasn’t a particularly close friend. But the drama of the breakup made up that. It all started over a Facebook post. No, I’m not kidding.

Ironically my post read: I can disagree with you and still love you. This is how love wins.

It was not even directed at her, but an issue. And that offended her. So she severed any ties between us and that was the end.

But my mind kept spinning, processing, trying to understand. If we are all imperfect how can we still love one another well?

Here’s the truth I choose to believe: we are all imperfect and we are all doing the best we can in spite of those imperfections. We all sin. We all mess up. We all say the wrong thing at the wrong time and hurt people whether we mean to or not. But we are all people, and our misgivings should never be a reason to stop showing love.

Eliminating people from our lives because they sin differently than we do will leave us very lonely. Click To Tweet

Yes, there are times we need boundaries. We need to make wise choices and follow God’s lead. But we must do this in love. For the other person, but also for ourselves.




About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

4 Replies

  1. Dottie Simonides

    Becky, you are one amazing lady. So glad you’re able to make time in your busy life to share your great insight.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you so much for the sweet encouragement Dottie! I hope My Ink Dance is a place were people see more of who they are, but more importantly who God is!

  2. This is a very good story to share. We can always love people even when we disagree with them, and even when the friendship ends, we can still love them and pray for them. Of course, Jesus tells us to even pray for our enemies. I love what you say “Love is always the best answer”!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Janet. Love is the best answer…even if we do it imperfectly. Have a beautiful day!

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