My Ink Dance

Discovering Extraordinary Grace in an Ordinary Life

You Can’t Save Anyone

I have been watching people I love struggle. They are going through big, hard to understand, and harder to fix, things. So I rolled up my sleeves to get to work.


I did all I could. When they needed someone, I was there. When they needed to talk, I listened. When they needed a solution, I was happy to provide many.

Surely, all of my hard work would pay off. It would fix things and make them better.

But every time I looked up expecting to see results, I was disappointed. It seemed that I was digging a hole in dry sand. I kept working, kept trying to be the solution for these people, but all of my efforts got them nowhere.

Instead, I found myself in a hole, stuck, knee-deep in sand. I had failed.

My mind was spinning. Questioning where I had gone wrong. Until I read something that changed everything.

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I had been doing a job that was never mine to do.

In all of the well-intentioned work I was doing, I was working in my strength. I was trying to be everything they needed. I was trying to save them.

We are not called to be anyone’s savior. God is the only one who can save us.

When we try to save people on our own, we are robbing them of the opportunity to see God. Click To Tweet

I found myself looking at what the people I love were going through with a new perspective. Instead of thinking how can I fix this? I am asking how can I show love?

This question has made a world of difference. We are not meant to take on the weight of what others are going through. We aren’t strong enough anyway. We can love. Love them right where they are. Love them in practical ways and in prayers.

Love them full and point them to the One who can be their anchor.

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Linking up with Holley Gerth, Jennifer Dukes Lee, Susan B. Mead, Grace & Truth and Missional Women.


About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

15 Replies

  1. Called to be lovers NOT fixers!!! Amen! #7 at Holley’s today right next door to YOU!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Love is always the answer! So glad you’re here!

  2. Wonderful reminder to let God do what only He can do. Glad we were neighbors this morning. Blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks for being here Joanne. God does it so much better than we could anyway, right?!

  3. What a difference that perspective and question can make!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Sarah! Sometimes a change in perspective can make a huge difference.

  4. Hello blunt. Needed this and am thankful for it! Amen. Something that I learned (hard) a couple of years ago but have needed a firm reminder about lately. Here it is. Thanks, Becky!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Lol! I do tend to be rather blunt…sometimes I flaw, sometimes a gift! I’m so glad that this resonated with you Bethany. It’s good to know I’m not alone!

  5. Such a good reminder!!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Alecia! Glad you’re here.

  6. Exactly! We cannot save people! This is such a great post! I’ll be sharing on my facebook page and pinterest. Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Aimee! I really appreciate you being here 🙂

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