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5 Lessons from “The Gifts of Imperfection”

Sometimes we are lucky enough to find books that offer us an insight into who we are. Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection had me hooked at the subtitle: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to be and Embrace Who You Are. YES! I want that!

Reading the book I found myself nodding my head and underlining whole paragraphs. Here are a few key takeaways for you to ponder.

Gifts Lessons

 1. There is a secret to living a wholehearted life.

Actually, it may be a lot of secrets, like how well we know and understand who we are. But there is one that trumps them all: loving ourselves. This is a process worth starting if we want to have any feeling of living the life we long for.

 2. Letting go and holding on are equally important.

You cannot do one or the other. Finding a way to let go of what others think is just as important as holding on to the truth that we are worthy of love and belonging. We must “own our story.”

 3. Living this life requires an honest look at the hard stuff.

If we walk through life without looking at the hard things like shame and fear, we will only be embracing part of who we are. Wholehearted living means looking at the whole picture and owning those parts of your story, too.

 4. Authenticity is not a single choice.


This is what real is all about.

 5. Busy is not a status symbol.

I could have missed this one as I flew through the pages, pen in hand. But this call to let go is more than just expectations. It’s letting go of being tired. It’s letting go of thinking that being busy equates with being important and living a full life. Sleep and play will add more value to your life than busy every could.

All of these ideas play a role. They are pieces of a very large, intricate puzzle, but one that is so worth working on. We must be as equally willing to face self-doubt and worth, control and gratitude, shame and play, fear and authenticity.

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

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  1. I love Brene Brown and all of her research and sharing. I’m actually going to go look this book up at our library now! Thanks for highlighting these lessons you took from The Gifts of Imperfection, as I’m constantly struggling with imperfection and working to let it go.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Kendall, you won’t regret reading this book! It is one I can see myself reading again and again to remind myself of letting go!

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