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5 Ways to Help Someone Who Is Struggling – Part 3

Some people I love dearly are going through hard things. The messy hard that wrings you out and leaves you exhausted. There isn’t anything I can say to fix their situation, but I can help with the effects of what they are going through.

And you can help someone, too. 5 ways to help someone who is struggling

Be Practical

When someone is in crisis, it is difficult for them to get the regular things done. When your child is in the hospital, mowing the lawn isn’t even on your radar or when you spend the day advocating just for someone  just so they can make it through the day, groceries and dinner planning get put off. That leaves you with grass to your knees staring at hungry kids and a clock that is ticking down.

You can help alleviate these pressures for someone.

Whatever practical things you do for someone make sure they are not another burden for them. Click To Tweet

Arrange some meals to be dropped off in cooler on the porch so they don’t need to entertain when people drop things off. (There are great, free websites to make this super easy. I love MealTrain!)

Set up someone to come mow the lawn once a week.

If you know the person well and they are comfortable for you to be in their home, come and do laundry or clean a bathroom. These are things that get pushed to the bottom of our lists in regular life, never mind if you are in crisis.

Whatever you do, make it simple enough that it doesn’t become one more thing for your friend to worry about.

Be the person who does the mundane so the person in crisis can focus on what's important. Click To Tweet

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

10 Replies

  1. The “not entertaining” thing is so important. I’m one of those people who feels like I have to entertain when people come to help… and that makes things harder!

    Great tips!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Ally! I’m so glad you’re here. I have to fight the urge to entertain and let people in to the real place my heart is. Sometimes letting people help is harder than helping someone. Here’s to doing a little better tomorrow 🙂

  2. Great practical tips! Thanks for sharing! I’m usually fumbling around wondering what I can do to help until a point when it’s no longer really needed!

    1. Becky Hastings

      I think we’ve all felt that way before! So glad you’re here, and keep on helping! It matters!

  3. Love the tips! I just posted on my blog about a meal service type of Blessing as well/ God Be With You, Johnna

    1. Becky Hastings

      So fun! I look forward to checking it out!

  4. I love the idea of cleaning a friend’s bathroom if they are in crisis. What a way to serve them. Very similar to washing their feet.

    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Aimee. Sometimes it is those very practical things that mean the most 🙂 Thanks for the linkup & the encouragement!

  5. somehow for years I have been the advice queen I learned it from all the strong ladies ahead of me. I love the rules you put in place for they are not there to be entertained but to look at their place in life practical and together find a few reasons or resources of how to help each other
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    1. Becky Hastings

      Practical advice makes a huge difference! Thanks for being here!

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