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What I Learned in September

Looking back is easier some months than others. September kind of wiped me out with the back to school and the routines and early morning alarms. But we made it, and I learned a few things along the way.


September is hard for me!

As much as I love new routines and crayons and calendars the transition, the change itself has never come easy. It’s a love/hate, leaning a bit more toward love than hate (most of the time). Maybe the new calendar is my way to control what feels so out of my control. The good news is that I found one I love (see it here). Yes, I’m still old school when it comes to hanging up a real calendar. (Bonus lesson: I’m learning who I am is ok too!)

I need to unplug.

I’m back to walking now that the kids are in school. Exercise is not something that comes easy for me, and so many people have said you just need to find the perfect playlist or podcast to listen to while you walk. For me, it’s more important that I unplug. I need that time with only the sounds around me. The quiet of the woods or the passing cars on the street. The waves on the water or just the sound of my breathing. It’s good for me to embrace the quiet. I hear better that way. (See Bonus lesson above.)

I found a favorite fall nail color!

I’m not one to paint my nails all the time, and when I do I struggle between classic and trendy. This new color balances both perfectly and it just makes me happy every time I look at it. Seriously, check it out here.

Six Years.

My oldest is going to be 12 in a few months, and that means I only have 6 years left with her living here as a kid. I can’t even grasp this. If the last 12 years are any indication, these next 6 will go by in the blink of an eye. A sometimes painful, cornea-scratching blink, but a blink nonetheless. And I don’t want to miss it.

I want to be present. I need to make choices for that to happen. Maybe it means I don’t look at my phone after they get home from school or I take 20 minutes and paint her nails for her. Maybe it means I say yes to making the cupcakes with my son even though I have a dozen other things to do or hanging on to family read aloud time.

Whatever it looks like, I’m in. I’m all in.

(And if family read aloud time is on your list don’t miss Sarah’s Read Aloud Revival )

 What did you learn in September? Take a moment and share in the comments.

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

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  1. Kids sure are growing up really fast! I’ve learned that I need to find something to celebrate in each season, to focus on the good things and let the less inspiring things go. Thanks, Becky! Have a blessed October!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Finding the things to celebrate make all the difference! Thanks for being here!

  2. I love what I learn posts! Yours was no exception. And that nail color? Is on my toes!!!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Isn’t it the best color?!!

  3. It’s important for me as well to have silence, the sound of the wind in the pines, the birds making a ruckus when I walk or when I work in the garden. God moves in my thinking during those moments, and I’m grateful for them because they precious!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Isn’t it amazing how beautiful silence can be? To just allow yourself to have that is a gift!

  4. Wow! Kids grow up fast and come to think of it we did too you know😂😁
    Hugs Becky

    1. Becky Hastings

      Sometimes I wish I could go back…just not to middle school! lol

  5. I didn’t know “What I Learn” posts were a thing but guess what?? I learned that they are…in September! I am with you on a few of these. In fact, they were quite confirming. I just prayed a prayer, a plea-whisper God would help me. Because by the end of the day I still feel like I spent more time checking off to-do’s than being….even though we are trying to change our lifestyle to not be that way, it is a fight. I feel healed from a lot of hurts, and have learned I can enjoy this gift of writing without guilt, I made space and time for family…now I just need help to intentionally choose them without rushing through. I think my intentions are good, I want us to make the most of the time we have alive, but I self sabotage when I don’t let it go at it’s own pace, know what I mean? Lol I guess needed to vent….wow. I am glad to have you all here. I need friends, I need the Body of Christ! I pray you will find that sweet spot with your kids too, and that many more lovely days of spiritual growth and joy are ahead of you, friend.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Meghan, I’m so glad you’re here! I think we can all relate to that fight for intentional living. It may look different for each of us, but deep inside I think most of us long for something different from what the world around us is doing. Recognizing what you need is a huge step. I’m not sure if walking it out feels easy, but it does get easier! I’ve found a few great books that helped me with this idea (although none can replace actually rolling up your sleeves and doing the work). This one helped me see it’s ok to be true to the longing for something different. And this and this helped me see how and why to put change in motion to create more of the life I long for. I’ve heard great things about this book, but I haven’t read it yet. It sounds like it’s along the same lines though! I hope that helps friend, and we’re here anytime!

  6. I love that nail polish! I may need to order it :). Thanks for the recommendation. I agree about unplugging and listening to the sounds around us more often. I try to multitask too often as well, listening to podcasts… while I’m walking or exercising. I love when I just take the time to enjoy the nature surrounding me.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Stillness, quiet, listening — they used to kind of scare me. Now I crave them. And btw…You won’t regret the nail polish!

  7. Becky, I love the new nail color! I’m looking for one also, and this looks like it will balance with everything. I’m old school with wall calendar also:) As intentional as I am, I have great difficulty unplugging, so that’s one for me to work on. Saying yes to making cupcakes is always a good idea!

    1. Becky Hastings

      You’re so right about the cupcakes! So glad to find kindred spirits here in this online corner!

  8. Love this, Becky. I still have a calendar on my fridge;) And I keep thinking about the measly 3 years I have left with my girl:( It does go by fast. But know that you are preparing her heart for the world…and for following hard after her Savior.
    Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Aimee!

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