My Ink Dance

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When Someone Else Gets Their Dream

There’s this writer, we’ll call her G. She’s kind of in the spotlight right now. There’s the book and the book club and the speaking. There’s even OPRAH. Like I said, spotlight.

And I’m mad.


I’m not jealous, exactly. I’m happy for her. Really.

But here’s the thing…she bleeds honest. On the screen, on the page, on the stage. She bleeds real and true and raw and….that’s what I want to do.

But I hold back. I’m scared.

I don’t want what she has. I want something that’s mine. But when your dreams look so similar it’s hard to cheer for the person that’s ahead of you in the race.

And here’s the thing that makes it so I’m not truly jealous: G makes me face the dreams I didn’t know I had, the ones I don’t tell anyone because they sound so big, too big. Outlandish even.


And all these dreams,  well, if they’re not big enough, we don’t need God. If it’s something you can accomplish all on your own with minimal elbow grease, and even less dirty knees, it’s not really a God dream. The best dreams are covered in sweat and smudges and sore places. Those are the dreams that we worked for.

And the secret…her dream is not your dream.

Yeah, I know, it feels like it is. But there’s something different about your dreams. Something that is uniquely yours. It can feel hard to see someone achieve her dream when it’s so similar to yours. But the truth is her dream will never make you happy. It will never be you walking in your calling.

Maybe it’s time we stopped looking at one another’s dreams and starting believing in our own.

Some great books that helped me on this path are:

Chase the Lion

The Art of Work

You’re Made for a God-Sized Dream

The Dream Giver

Oh, and that book by that writer I mentioned….you can find it here (I’ve heard it’s actually pretty amazing). 

Sharing words with these great writers today!

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

14 Replies

  1. Becky, I read your post through several times as I knew there was something I needed to “see”. The funny thing about dreams … if we try to chase the dream of another, we miss the dream that was intended for us. May we keep our eyes on Him and the dream He has given us and us alone. Blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      You’re so right about chasing dreams. I’m finding that the only real way to keep chasing my unique dream is to keep my eyes on Him, not the dream. So glad you’re here!

  2. Their dream will never make you happy. Amen to that! Sometimes I remind myself of that, but it is hard to convince my heart (and ego.) great words!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Sarah. It is so hard sometimes, isn’t it? So grateful for this space where we can encourage and remind one another 🙂

  3. I’ve never thought about my dreams not being big enough. Hmmmmm Well written! I’ll be sharing this post in my Friday Faves! Blessings to you and yours!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you so much Marie! I’m so happy to hear it resonated with you. God’s got good things for those dreams that are just a bit (or a lot) beyond our abilities!

  4. We need to keep dreaming big and allowing God to create our unique story. There’s nothing to stop us from doing what G did! Just a little time difference is all. 😉

    1. Becky Hastings

      You’re so right Kathy!

  5. I love this, Becky! God gives us our dreams when we abide in Him fully! And He equips us to fulfill those special dreams. He tailors our dreams just for us…not for someone else. Thanks for this reminder. I have chosen to feature your post on this week’s Grace and Truth. Be sure to pop over to my site tomorrow and get your button! Thanks for sharing!

  6. Thanks for “going there,” Becky. There’s such a temptation in this writing life to covet the success of another writer. I appreciate your inspiration to trust God for the dream He is working out in my life on this ordinary Tuesday.

    1. Becky Hastings

      His dream for you is custom made, designed for you alone. And it is wonderful!

  7. Yes! Even if they look really similar- her dream is not my dream 🙂 Thanks, Becky- and thankful the Lord is working on your big dreams!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Dreams are like fingerprints, and we are not meant to have someone else’s. Amen!

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