My Ink Dance

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Is The Internet for The Pretty People?

It seems like the internet is for the pretty people. The ones with perfect hair and perfect hips. With green grass and appropriately big earrings. With holiday home tours and perfectly white teeth.

Basically, not me.

And I began to wonder about this virtual world we spend so much of our time in. Is it for me? Do I have a place here in this magical online land? Am I enough?

It’s easy to think that we see what’s real through a screen. Everything looks so real. We see images and read words that are carefully crafted. And they are really beautiful.

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When my kids were little and we would watch a Disney movie there was always a villain. Inevitably, someone became scared, and I had to coo the gentle reminder: It’s not real. It’s only make-believe.

Maybe we need that reminder here sometimes. Sure, there are parts that are real. There are amazing people doing amazing things. But we are only seeing part of the filtered, staged image. Maybe we need the reminder: It’s not real. It’s only make-believe.

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Because this space online is for all of us. Even in our messy ordinary. Especially in our messy ordinary. Let’s give one another permission to be beautifully real.

Easy to say. Harder to do.

But maybe if we walk with one another on a journey toward real, we can appreciate the beautiful and the ordinary at the same time.

Sharing words with these great writers today!

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

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  1. Giving this a slow read and nodding, “yes.”
    It’s a challenge to keep the words on the screen consistent with real life, and so easy to fall into the trap of writing only about our successes. Thanks for this reminder that God is glorified in our reports of His mighty rescues and our accounts of His working in the midst of the blessed ordinary.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Michele, you always have such a great way of sharing what you learn along the way! I love how you talk about sharing about His mighty rescues! I forget to give Him credit for those sometimes!

  2. Such a good reminder, Becky. There are many times, when standing on line in the supermarket as I peruse the magazine covers, that I remind myself, “Airbrushed” 🙂 Perhaps it is time that we remind ourselves of the same thing as we browse through our social media. This Advent season, I am finding myself realizing that our Lord came to dwell among us and that means among the messy. Blessings to you and yours!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Airbrushed indeed! Lol. I am so very grateful that He came to dwell among us….in all the mess! Sometimes I forget that I don’t need to “get ready” for Jesus!

  3. Becky,
    LOVE this! I think similar thoughts and sometimes I just have to remember that all is not as real as it seems and we all do have our place, even if we don’t have long hair and big shiny earrings! 🙂 Enjoyed reading this today!

    1. Becky Hastings

      We all do have our place, don’t we? Sometimes I’m so busy trying to get in someone else’s place I’m completely blind to the empty spot God created just for me!

  4. I have pretty good hair (hubs is a hairdresser) but my hips are too wide and I’m far from perfect but I am REAL. Great post!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you so much Susan. I love that you have great hair! I love that you’re real. Thanks for being here!

  5. Becky, what a wonderfully open, honest, and transparent post! I so agree with you. Let us keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, and the things of earth (and social media) will grow strangely dim… many blessings to you!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Beth. It’s so nice to know that I’m not the only one who struggles with this sometimes. The reminder to fix our eyes on Jesus is exactly what we all need!

  6. Yes, yes. I was just talking about this with some fellow moms the other day. So many times people strive to show their best self, one that look perfect. Like you said, we need to remember that part is filtered. On the flip side, the more and more bloggers I read and follow, the more and more I realize there are also a lot of people who try to keep things real. Sure they post that great picture of the tree, but two posts later it’s their toddler melting down in the middle of the store. 🙂

    1. Becky Hastings

      I love the balance of that! When people can show their strengths (ie…decorating that tree) as well as the hard times (ie…toddler meltdown aisle 7) it gives us the most beautiful permission to be fully us, in our beautiful moments and our hard moments, our ordinary and our extraordinary!

  7. Great post! The enemy would love to make us feel along and inadequate and isolated from the very support networks that help to sustain us in troubling times. Sharing our MESSY with each other is what connects us. Praising Jesus for helping us overcome it is what gives us collective hope! Blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Collective Hope! I love this! Sometimes my “hope tank” is running pretty low. But if we all team up, well it will never run empty! So glad you’re here Liz!

  8. What a messy ordinary I live in. A few weeks ago, my sister and I were brave–at least I think so. We were at our parents’ house–both with zero makeup on (and we wear a good bit). So we snapped a pic and posted our “fresh faced” faces for our internet worlds to see. That’s the “real us” … and a clearer picture of life in general. Good words today, Becky. Glad to be your friend from Grace & Truth.

    1. Becky Hastings

      The idea of a “Fresh Faced” picture is awesome! Even when we see pics of the “stars” without makeup, we flock to them! I think we’re all begging to feel like we’re ok, just as we are and to see that others are just as “messy” as we are. That, and for someone else to go first 🙂

  9. I’m real too…a real big mess;) I love the reminder everything online isn’t real just like the Disney movies!

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s hard to remember! Maybe I need to put a post it on my computer screen! 🙂

  10. It’s so true that the Internet definitely encourages us to present our idealized selves. Embrace the mess!

  11. The name of my health coaching business is Be Real because I want women to be real – be honest about what they’re going through, what they’re eating, how they feel, what they struggle with. Life IS messy, but that’s ok because it’s messy for all of us. We’re all in this messy ordinary together!

    Thank you for the reminder that it’s ok to be ordinary on social media, too. 🙂 Because my tree isn’t put up yet, presents aren’t purchased, and definitely no Christmas cookies are made! Hey, maybe I should put that on social media – my ordinary, everyday living room! Hah!

    1. Becky Hastings

      I love it! I think a lot of women get to walk in freedom because of what you do. And a pic of your yet to be decorated living room….I think you’d get a lot of people shouting ME TOO!

  12. I keep thinking about this; we need to start a #messyordinary movement on social media. What do you think? Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, let’s post our messy ordinary images! I’m going to post mine on Instagram in the morning since I’ve already posted there twice today. Kind of like Emily Freeman’s #itssimplytuesday.

    1. I love it! I like a #messyordinary movement. I loved that line. I agree with Kathy. Beautiful piece Becky. Great reminder!!

      1. Becky Hastings

        Isn’t Kathy’s idea great Brittany?! Thank you for your kind words, and by the looks of your blog name….you get it! I can’t wait to explore more!

    2. Becky Hastings

      I love this idea! #Messyordinary! Fantastic. Maybe I could do a little Q&A with you about it for My Ink Dance????

  13. My online life is full of messy. Maybe I’ll be able to give others hope… in a real and transparent life, centered in Jesus. And, I even fail in that most days. But, I’m glad we can encourage one another on in living real. I appreciate you post of honesty and openness. God bless you as you continue to use His gifts! Following you this week at Jennifer’s.

    1. Becky Hastings

      I’m so grateful that we can all walk through this together in our #messyordinary! Have a great week!

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