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The Gift that Won’t Be Wrapped (A Note for My Kids)

Dear Kids,

I know you’ll be happy this Christmas. The lights and the gifts and the family fun. You’ll love it. Probably. Mostly. I mean, you’ll enjoy parts of it.

Because here’s the thing. I know you’ll be disappointed, too. Not in a rude, disrespectful way, but in a quiet, deep in your heart way when you realize you’ll never get everything you ever wanted. I can’t do that for you. And the truth is, no one can.

I didn’t give you everything you ever wanted for Christmas. But it goes far beyond that. There were so many times at the store that I said no and we left in tears. There were so many things that we missed out on, events we didn’t go to, parties we declined. It was all for a reason.

There is only one thing that can fill that in you, in me, in any of us, and that's God. Click To Tweet

I knew that no shiny pile of gifts or five-star vacation would ever fill the endless want deep inside. Don’t feel bad about that, we all have it. There is only one thing that can fill that in you, in me, in any of us, and that’s God.

So, I gave up the stockpiling of gifts. I’ll still find things perfectly you. Sometimes I’ll get it right and sometimes it will become a funny family story. But there is one thing I’m trying desperately to give you that I just cannot wrap.

More than anything I want to give you time. Time to be a kid. Time with me. Time to be bored. Time to explore. Time to feel like the star and time to feel your failure. Time to feel love and time to feel sadness.

It's the one thing we can't stop and all of us want more of. Click To Tweet

As you unwrap your gifts and we sit in a sea of torn wrapping and new things, you may have a moment where you feel disappointed. You may even feel a little sad that it’s over, like it’s a let-down. Give yourself that moment and then find the next moment. A moment to enjoy, a moment to rest, a moment to snuggle or laugh or just do something else. I cannot give you everything, but I can point you what your heart really longs for and I can give you love and the gift of time.

I love you.



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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

10 Replies

  1. Oh, Becky.
    This is so beautiful, and so true.
    Your kids are truly blessed.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Michele! Merry Christmas

  2. Awe, how beautiful, Becky. Love this. Sounds like you’re a great mom. Hope you all have a sweet Christmas with moments filled with the gift of time together. Merry Christmas!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Brenda! You are so thoughtful. Merry Christmas!

  3. Yes, He is the only gift that matters. Have a wonderful Holiday!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Amen Friend!

  4. Becky, these are wise words I hope your children will take to heart. If not now, then someday in the future. I also wish to give the gift of time and love to my children, and teach them to value the intangible gifts over material ones. Christmas blessings to you, from your neighbor at #coffeeforyourheart.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you so much for your kind words Sarah. It’s so easy to lose track of what matters; maybe the letter was for me as much as it is for them. Have a wonderful Christmas!

  5. I love this Becky. I think this is one of those posts you have to save and print out for your kids as they get older too. Esp. when they get to their own childbearing ages. Such a beautiful reminder of what the true reason is for this Christmas season. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

    1. Becky Hastings

      That’s a great idea Nicki. Sometimes I think I wrote it as much for me as I did for them 🙂 Merry Christmas!

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