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The Church Project, Part I

We all approach Church with our own ideas and life experiences. Learning from one another can help us become better equipped to love and encourage one another in God’s truth.

As we spend a few weeks exploring our role within the Church, I started a project asking people about their experiences. People will answer the same 3 questions and offer you their answers. I encourage you to think about them and pray about how you would answer the same questions.

My first guest would prefer to remain anonymous as she has experienced some of this recently. Perhaps her anonymity speaks to how many of us can relate to her experiences.


What role does the Church play in your faith?

Fellowship, accountability, and that inexplicable thing where the Holy Spirit is just so present when believers gather in His name. I love that when you show up and get involved in church, the Lord is often very obviously present and working there.

Have you ever struggled with church? Why or why not?

Of course. For me, it’s been difficult finding places that have Christ as their focus and Scripture alive and active in the work of the body. I love visiting churches and experiencing all the differences between those who love Jesus, but also long for a church home/family, and that can be hard to find. Trusting the Lord to provide!

What would you tell someone who is uncertain about the Church?

When I first became a Christian someone close to me had to very awkwardly explain to my defensive self that church really does matter. God tells us in His Word not to neglect meeting together to glorify Him, to seek correct teaching, to participate in the body. That said, don’t think there’s a mandatory way to do church. The Bible does not say “meet every 7 days for 3 hours and plaster on a smile.” Find a church mode that brings you to awe, delight, correction, fellowship, accountability, and most importantly Christ Himself. That doesn’t look the same for everyone.

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I love the final thought above about finding a church that not only feels lovely, but that brings things like accountability. Remember what and who the Church is for.
Can you relate to any of the thoughts above? I’d love to hear your experiences in the comments!

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I’m here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

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  1. who among us hasn’t struggled with this oh-so-important relationship? i’m learning that the more grace we give others, the more we are able to receive from above …

    1. Becky Hastings

      So true Linda…especially the grace part 🙂

  2. Becky, I am writing about the importance of the local church this week too. Love it! Thank you for your closing challenge: Remember what and who the Church is for.

    1. Becky Hastings

      I love hearing people talk about the Church. Sometimes it’s hard and messy, but it is still good!

  3. Church can be a hard relationship. And that is the thing to remember – it is a relationship and they can get messy. Yet we thrive so much better when in relationship with the Church. Blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Amen Joanne!

  4. Good questions, Becky. I love how your guest pointed out that this is such an individual experience, and that everyone worships differently. I pray she’s able to find a church home soon. — Church is one of those things where, the more I don’t want to go that week–the more I need to go that week. Not out of a guilt-type situation, but b/c God always meets me there and gives me what I need–often what I didn’t know I needed. — Thanks for sharing with #ChasingCommunity, Becky and guest. 🙂 Look forward to the other parts of the series. ((xoxo))

    1. Becky Hastings

      I can relate to that struggle Brenda! So often God has things for us and we fight them without even knowing it. Grateful for His grace that gets us there!

  5. Corporate worship is so necessary for establishing the kind of community that strengthens us to go out into the world and share our hope. I really appreciate your guest’s honesty and pray she finds a worship home soon! Blessings!!

    1. Becky Hastings

      That’s so true Liz! It’s such a complex issue, isn’t it? I am honestly amazed at the number of people struggling. Prayer is definitely a great first step!

  6. We’ve had a lot of conversations about local churches recently. Ours is in the process of hiring a pastor, which has prompted conversations and really shed light on people’s preferences. I like that you’re welcoming these conversations here. And I’m glad you linked up at #PorchStories at my place.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Hi Kristin, It’s such an interesting process for a church to hire a pastor. And you’re right, it is eye opening! It forces us to look at what is important and to talk about our thoughts. More than that it is how we bring them before the cross again and again in surrender. So grateful for space to have these conversations!

  7. Becky – I absolutely love the church even with all of its ugly stuff too. I love how our church encourages me to grow in my faith, knowledge, serving. Then to be among other believers is awesome. To also know that God will be there, is just amazing. I know he is everywhere with us, but I can feel, taste and experience him every single time I go.

    Yes, of course, I have struggled with the church, after all, it is made up of sinners just like myself, so it is not perfect. Bad decisions are sometimes made, and people are hurt. I find treating it like a family and sticking it out through the bad and good works well for me.

    I would tell someone to jump into the church and become a part of it. Start serving and meeting with others but to remember it won’t be perfect after all that is why Jesus came in the first place to save us.
    I would make sure that the church’s teaching line up with the Bible and that you are in agreement in the essential things.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Maree I love your thoughts on the church. Your enthusiasm and love for the body shines through your words 🙂

      It is so true that it is like a family. And choosing to stay and be there is important. So often people are church shopping as if it were a buffet. God wants us to be stretched and in deep lasting relationship. That’s hard for me, but I’m working on it (with HIS help!)

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