3 Practical Things to Do When Church Feels Hard
Church. The simple word can bring so many emotions. It can remind us of faith, pain, belonging, rejection, love, and loss. Much like any relationship with imperfect people, church brings a host of feelings, and for some, it just feels hard.
But does that mean it has no place in their life?
These words may feel simple to read and far harder to execute. Believe me, I know. I’ve had my loss and heartache with church. I am walking out these feelings and changes just like you my friend. You are not alone.
Church can get messy. Whether we’re talking about the institution of church (you know, the buildings filled with people on a Sunday morning) or The Church (the name given by God for the global body of believers) there is one major thing they have in common: humans.
The church is people. And the one thing people all have in common is that we make mistakes. This doesn’t justify behavior, but it is the reality of the human condition. We are a rag-tag group of people who have common beliefs in God. And the only thing that makes our fallibility okay is Jesus.
We all need Jesus.
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But the practical is so much harder than saying the name of Jesus, right? Every situation isn’t the same. And I must stop here to say something important:
If you are in any type of abusive situation in a church, please, please seek help. One blog post isn’t going to be the answer. For anyone really.
Because the truth is, we all need help.
When it feels hard and we don’t know what to do there are 3 things that will make a difference.
1. Keep the Faith. Don’t let issues with the church get in the way of your faith in God. Keep praying. Keep seeking Him. Keep believing you are loved and forgiven and have a place with Him in eternity no matter what.
2. Say something. Talk about what’s hard. Chances are you are not the only one struggling. Find people you trust and be real with them. They may have a solution. They may just be a sounding board. Either way, it helps you process your feelings.
3. Forgive. This one is really hard. I’ve walked forgiveness in hard places, 490 times a day as a matter of fact. It’s always worth it. You may not even know what you are forgiving or who you are forgiving. Just start. Open your mouth and tell God, “I forgive the church.” Start there until you know more specifics.Forgiving breaks us out of a jail we never knew we were in. Click To Tweet
You don’t have to walk through this hard place alone. You are loved and you are part of The Church, even when you can’t step through the doors.
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About Becky Hastings
I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.