My Ink Dance

Discovering Extraordinary Grace in an Ordinary Life

When Real Life Interrupts Your Calling

I sat down at the computer typing and there was a homework question coming from the kitchen table a few feet away. I looked at the clock and saw dinner was approaching and I had nothing. The blank screen stared and the blinking cursor mocked. This is not how I thought it would feel to pursue my calling.

I’ve been on a path for over a year to figure out what role writing plays in my purpose. Tapping words on the screen, some better than others, I’m still uncertain of the shape and direction to go. I’ve been wandering in my own desert looking for water.

This is not how I thought it would feel to pursue my calling. Click To Tweet

When I opened the mailbox to discover Jeff Goins’ latest book The Art of Work, I thought I’d found it. Clearly, this must be it. The subtitle reads: A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant to Do.

YES! That. I want that.

And I cracked the spine, highlighter and pen in hand and began a process.

I hate process. I like knowing. I like being finished and checking things off my list. I wanted to breeze through the book, clearly know what I’m meant to do and then add the title to my Read in 2015 board on Pinterest. But I couldn’t.

This book took me somewhere I didn't expect. The best books tend to do that. #artofwork Click To Tweet

It took me into parts of myself that I’ve closed off for years. It brought me face to face with my questions, fears, and uncertainties about those big philosophical questions. I met people from all over the world through Jeff’s stories. People that looked at the same questions and were walking out their answers one step at a time. Because the subtitle is exactly right, it is a path and I was so busy looking for the endpoint I was missing the journey.


Each page took me through the process of thinking and evaluating my dreams and calling. It addressed the questions and pitfalls I kept getting stuck in all while weaving in stories of people who have been through the process and are just a bit further along on their path.

As I neared the end of the book I read the words that pierced the heart of the push and pull I’d been feeling for years.

Sometimes all the little things in life aren’t interruptions to our calling. They are the most important part.

Jeff Goins, The Art of Work

Here I was struggling to carve out time for what I thought would be my true calling, all along missing the fact that helping with homework and making dinner, movie night and lazy Sunday’s, taking the dogs out and lunch dates with my husband, all of it is part of my calling.

And the question is not how to eliminate things to make room for my calling?

The question is how do the things in my life work together to help me become my calling?

Check out Jeff Goins’ book here!

About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

12 Replies

  1. Thanks for the review, Becky! And you’re right: it’s all of those things. And I love that you’re thinking of a calling as someone you become, not something you do. That’s right on, in my opinion. Here’s to continuing on the journey!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Jeff!

  2. Wonderful meeting you Peggy! This is a great post! I could identify so much with it.
    Jeff, I haven’t read your book yet, because a vision problem makes it hard for me to be long on the computer. Looking forward to your physical book.

    Peggy, I am a TW also. Life, however, has been demanding my attention on quite a few fronts, for quite a long time, so I haven’t been able to be more involved in the Tribe.

    We think we find the calling of our life and give it all we have because we are happy and excited. Little things of everyday life seen so annoying as they take us away from our dream. And we complain and resist even when we do them, until Life decides to hit us on the head, so that we begin paying attention not only to tribulations but to the little moments we did not want to deal with.

    Being open and obedient to those cues from the universe allows us to put aside our own little plans for a while and see where life’s stepping stones take us. When a goal doesn’t manifest when we plan, it does not mean we are not capable or lazy. We have to consider why the universe puts roadblocks on our path.

    My book was “ready” to publish three years ago. But every time I planned to send it off, something major happened that would not allow it. Dealing with life as it comes makes us stronger and wiser. Lessons learned from interruptions and tribulations will take us where we need to be…not where we think we should be. Moreover, they will add patina and depth to our character and reveal what our calling is. Life’s delays gave me the opportunity to further work on my book, enhancing it with new-found experiences, perspective, and wisdom that will inspire and encourage my future readers.

    The universe certainly knows what we need and if we let go of our personal agenda it will take us where we need to be.
    Though I always knew that, it took me a while to accept it. It’s imperative to understand that our outer purpose of my life, our calling as Jeff puts it, will only come to be if it coincides with our inner divine purpose.

    Yes, Jeff, it is indeed the journey that will take us to the right destination, as you know, the theme of my own book, “Sailing to Ithaca.”

    Wishing you great blessings!


    1. Becky Hastings

      What a great story! It is amazing that you can see the benefit those three years have given you with your story. What a great gift! Thank you so much for sharing!

  3. Great write up. Found your article through Jeff’s Facebook post. We are all on the same journey, looking for our true calling and trying to make a dent in the universe. 🙂
    Love your writing. Cheers

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Shawn! We are all on this journey. For so long I found myself looking for the finish line, only to realize there is none. Grateful for people to walk with along the journey!

  4. I think your article helps a lot of people because almost all of us have some problems and don’t talk about them!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you!

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