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How To Do Hard Things — In 2 Easy Steps

Remember when I talked about how hard this whole life thing is? Remember nodding your head and thinking, yeah, I know hard? Here’s the thing…we all do. We all know hard. We all have stuff. And we can all have Jesus.


And yes, it’s a comfort to know He’s there, not only to help you get through the hard, but to be with you in the hard. Knowing this can be a game changer. But sometimes we need to help each other find our way through it. This is where we find one another. This is where we find out we’re not alone.

When that hard thing stands before you, staring you down and you want to cower, here’s how you find your way.

Step 1 – Grace. Yes, start here. Because anywhere else would be in your own strength. Give yourself permission to be and to feel and to admit the hard, but give yourself enough grace to keep looking up.

In every storm — Your Father gives you a life-preserver — and it is always His Son.

Ann Voskamp

Step 2 – Recognize there is a battle (and know what to do about it). It’s all around us happening in a million little ways.

“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against rulers, against powers, against world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.” (Ephesians 6:12)

When you can see that there is a battle that is about more than any decision or mistake you can make, you can breathe a little easier. The struggles, the hard places are not all about us. And even when they are a direct result of something we’ve done, we’ve got a plan.

God gives us full access. He tells us just what to do in Ephesians 6.

“Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:11)

I’ve read the verses. It continues on to tell us each piece, but I can’t even get beyond this. Alli Worthington puts this in a perspective that leaves me amazed.

It is God’s armor. Not armor made for you by God. But God’s armor. Think about that for a second. You have complete and total access to the armor of God. It’s as if God is saying, “Here, here is my armor. Put it on.” I don’t know a whole lot about armor, but I do know this from all my years reading adventure books from the library: the king always had the best, strongest, most expensive armor.

Alli Worthington, Breaking Busy

Yes! You have access to armor. Not the extra armor that was lying around in the dungeon. You have complete and total access to the very armor of God. Stand tall, friend. You get to wear the king’s armor.

Now here’s where the steps get a little crazy. Are you ready?

Go back to grace and start again.

Because all is grace, my friend.

In the hard. In the good. In the sobbing on the bathroom floor. In the fake smile. All is grace.

 Grace is like a thread

You can do this. How do I know? Well, because it’s not you who’s doing it at all. You only need to keep going to Him. Sure, playing music or praying or Bible reading, lunch with a trusted friend or even a much-needed bubble bath will help. But the very heart of the matter when things feel hard is remembering grace upon grace my friend.

This post was a follow-up to Not For The Faint of Heart. If you would like more encouragement for getting through hard places see here and here.

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

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  1. So I’m wearing the shirt my son bought me as a joke, but I’ve come to love it- it says this: “I’m all about that grace ’bout that grace No Devil”… And I’m nodding my head at your declarations and awed by your armor conclusions… especially since I linked up right next you (at Holley’s and in Ephesians 6 as well!) talking about the shoes of peace. Grace upon grace indeed. God is so good and so funny isn’t He? Off to read about our spiritual armor in a new light. ♥ Blessings on you Becky!

    1. Becky Hastings

      I love this Heather! The shirt, your heart, everything. Even reading your words…’grace upon grace indeed’ wash over me anew! So glad you’re here!

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