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What I Learned in May

Life can get busy. You know this. Our days are filled with good and not-so-good things, yet we barely have time to process them, to take something of value from the joy or the heartache. Maybe it’s time we change that.

In no particular order, here are 5 things I learned this month.

5 things learned may '16

1. Getting away can make a world of difference

It was my husband’s birthday this month, a BIG birthday. I gave him the options of a big party, a gift, or a getaway. I am so grateful he chose the last one!

Our party of 5 loaded up the minivan and headed north to the mountains of New Hampshire. We spent four days without much of a plan other than to be together.* It was work. A lot of work. And money. But let me tell you, it was exactly what we needed. Time to be who we are as a family, without the pressures of everyday life, let us breathe and enjoy one another.

Even if you can’t get away for a trip, you can purpose time away. Sometimes all it takes is a road trip for the day to a favorite spot. It may feel like work, but it is so worth it.

*A side note….one thing worth planning is meals. You can always change it, but having a plan really helps. I get cranky when I’m hungry and am terrible at making decisions. Which leads me to #2.

2. I don’t need to make excuses for who I am

Here’s the thing, I get really cranky when I’m hungry. For a long time, I apologized for that. I thought I needed to change that part of who I am. I thought it was a flaw. This month I learned that it is just part of me. Not good or bad. Just me.

I have no responsibility or reason to apologize for who I am. Click To Tweet

I should, however, make sure I don’t get ravenous. Anyone have a Snickers handy???

3. I can be in the picture

I spent a long time always taking every picture. Memorializing moments of my kids, my husband, my family. But I was always behind the camera.

If a stranger, fifty years from now, looked at our family photos would they know I exist? Probably not.

I decided it was time to change that. I may not like every picture and I may not be my ideal weight or have the perfect outfit, but I’d rather be in the picture imperfect than miss out.

4. Sometimes you need to buy the book

My library card gets a lot of miles. I love books, and so do my kids. The frugal side of me usually wins out and I search my library system for what I want making full use of interlibrary loans. (As a writer, I probably shouldn’t be telling you this!)


But sometimes you find a book that you need to own. You need to hold it in your hands and dog ear pages and underline quotes. You need to be able to write in the margins or just see it sitting on your shelf months or years later to remember how much you treasure all that is inside. Even if you never pick it up again, sometimes it’s ok to buy the book.

Stay tuned for a list of my favorites!

5. It’s ok to be alone

I like being with my people. I thrive on that connection with the ones I love. But I can be all by myself, too. This is new to me. I am learning to like time alone. Going for a walk all by myself can be a beautiful thing.

Take a few minutes and think about what you learned this month. Even one thing. I would love to hear about it!

Check out what some other people learned this month —-> Linking up with Emily Freeman!


About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

15 Replies

  1. What a great summary of your month!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Michele!

  2. These are great lessons you learned in May! I get nasty when I am hungry and I try to keep a cliff bar with me so that I can have a quick snack to help combat my mood and dropping blood sugar.

    Did you read “The Gifts of Imperfection” in May? I noticed it on your title photo. I read it in April and learned so much about myself! I am excited to read more by Brene Brown

  3. I agree about being in the picture. I never am, and its not on purpose, but I need to change that.

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s so important Gabrielle. And I’ve found (if I can let go of my issues) it makes me really happy to see myself in pictures with people I love or doing things I enjoy! Can’t wait to hear how you find your way into the picture 😉

  4. Sounds like you had an eventful May! I am also one who gets hangry! 😬 If I don’t eat, I’m usually not fun to be around. I love that you just accept that about yourself. I need to do that too! Neighbors with you at Tuesday Talk.

    1. Becky Hastings

      So nice to have you here Alisa! I’m glad I’m not the only one who gets hangry. It’s not a trait I’m proud of, but sometimes accepting those things about ourselves brings so much peace! Thanks for being here…Now I’m going to go make dinner 🙂

  5. I found you through Emily’s page! I really resonated with the “getting away”…that was one of my learnings this month too. It’s always worth the time, money and effort.

    1. Becky Hastings

      So glad you’re here Aimee! Can’t wait to check out your list!

  6. have no responsibility or reason to apologize for who I am. – I love this. I am constantly having to relearn this since I struggle with this is deeply and daily

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s freeing, isn’t it? I’m with you in the struggle…glad we can remind one another 🙂

  7. I’m learning to buy the books (and songs) too as a way of showing my appreciation the the creatives.

    This is a good list of learnings

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you!

  8. I could relate to everyone of these! Enjoyed your blog and look forward to your favorite reads😊

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Paula! It’s hard to narrow down, but I’m working on it!

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