My Ink Dance

Discovering Extraordinary Grace in an Ordinary Life

Some Battles Need to be Fought Again and Again

Today I introduce you to a less put together version of myself. A part that is messy but no less real.



There was a battle in my house last night. A raging fight that left wounds, exposed weakness and left only one side victorious as the other sulked away only to rearm for the next round.

You can’t see any of the wounds. They are covered deep under layers of smiles and “I’m fine” responses. But the bandages are bloody and I pray the sutures hold.

The weapons were words never spoken, only sparred back and forth on synapses. Do not doubt the venom that existed there. They were sharp, from both sides, with full intent to kill.

The sides were both contained in one space, one soul. Never even allowing anyone the opportunity to defuse the situation.

I lay in bed last night perfectly still as the battle raged inside. I felt the warmth of reassurance next to me, but how could I be sure which side he was on?

It all started as one curled lip suggestion in my head:

Surely you’re not enough. Miss America is what he wants.

The first punch.

There was a stunned silence as I contemplated the hit. It wasn’t the first time I’d been hit, but it had been awhile.

You’re not pretty enough.

I could hear the bullet whiz past my ear. A graze leaving a stinging bleed.

No one wants you.

He’s probably thinking about someone else.

He’ll seek affection with another.

You’ll never be enough.

The rapid fire onslaught caught me off guard and my head was pounding. Automatic weapons are deafening. I knew the blood was pouring out of me and I didn’t know how to stop the bleeding.

But I remembered a pocket knife I had been given. Surely I shouldn’t bring a knife to a gunfight. I ignored the blood and pulled the blade.

I am a child of the KING.

That blade cut the enemy deeper than any gunshot could penetrate.

I am made in HIS image.

Another swipe of the blade.

I am beautiful because HE made me.

The movements came swiftly now. One after another and the enemy could no longer wield his weapons. When I looked I realized the pocket knife had become a sword and the enemy had no defense.

I am more than a conqueror.

I am loved with an everlasting love.

I am His.

I felt worn from the battle. Even victory can leave you exhausted.

Realizing the enemy had no choice but to slink away and lick his wounds, I began to close my eyes. I smiled for the first time since it began. It really had nothing to do with the knife or the sword, but who I invited when I chose to fight back.

The battle was won last night. I'm fairly certain the war is not over, but I do know who wins. Click To Tweet

Looking back I see how easy I made it all sound. As much as I know and believe these truths, it is still a struggle. I wish I could say it wasn’t. I wish I could say I have it all figured out and there are only invisible scars. But the truth is that my scars are as visible as I let them be. So, I show them here in the hopes that it helps even one person fell less alone in their own scars. 

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

10 Replies

  1. Becky:

    Great article! Too often we can get stuck in our own heads and we are cruelest to ourselves. Thank you for sharing your story!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Christy. It is so easy to get stuck, isn’t it? So grateful for grace in those places 🙂

  2. Becky- I know this fight all too well. Sometimes I let the fear and doubt overcome me especially when I’m tired, stressed or sick. Perfect times for the darts and snares of the evil one.
    I want to remember His armor at all times!
    Your #CoffeeforYourHeart neighbor,

    1. Becky Hastings

      Oh, Julie. You bring up such a great point. God’s armor. Ironically, I’ve studied it and I’ve even written about it here at My Ink Dance, but it is so easy to forget. So grateful for your kind words and reminder!

  3. Yep- I’m easily caught up in contained battles like these too. Especially when things stack up around me and I retreat into myself to duke out my doubts. Thanking the Lord He gives us the weapon to win and the victory- including yours last night!

    1. Becky Hastings

      You hit something so pivotal in all of this: the retreating into oneself. Sometimes that’s where I get into the most trouble! So glad God doesn’t leave me there!

  4. I’m definitely familiar with this battle, and it is so easy to retreat rather than fighting back. I love your comment that it’s not about how skilled we are with the weapons but about who we invite when we choose to fight back. Also very comforting to know how the battle ends.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Isn’t it amazing how that knowledge of how the battle ends makes a world of difference?! It’s so freeing to know that we don’t fight alone and that we are on the winning side!

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    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Mike!

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