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When Life Feels Too Hard for Dreams

We see it all of the internet right now. What are your dreams for 2017? Dream big! What’s your word of the year? Set goals! You can have whatever you put your mind to!

Except you can’t.

With terminal illness on the horizon a person may only be able to dream about making it through the next hour, never mind the year.

The person facing a divorce may not know what dreams look like anymore because their world is shards of glass around them and they’re just trying to figure out how to live without getting sliced open.

Infertility can leave an emptiness that reaches places in the heart making dreams nothing more than a balloon about to burst…over and over again.

Sometimes we face hard things that make dreaming feel impossible. It's o.k. to be in that place. You are not alone. Click To Tweet

While the world is a frenzy with new beginnings and resolutions it’s o.k. to be in a different place. You can rest in knowing that you are not in that place alone, and you never will be.

The Original Dreamer is in your hard place with you. Always. Click To Tweet

We can rest easy knowing that He has dreams for us that are so much bigger than our own. We can rest easy knowing that we don’t have to pretend to be cheering for the new year with noisemakers and confetti because God is cheering for us every day.

God doesn’t use a calendar to decide when we need a fresh start. He’s with us in the hardest moments declaring his love and forgiveness and mercy all along the way.

Maybe your year isn’t starting the way you hoped. Maybe it’s been more than a year. Let yourself rest in God’s truth for your life today.

Christ arrives right on time to make this happen. He didn’t, and doesn’t, wait for us to get ready. He presented himself for this sacrificial death when we were far too weak and rebellious to do anything to get ourselves ready. And even if we hadn’t been so weak, we wouldn’t have known what to do anyway. We can understand someone dying for a person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him.

Romans 5:6-8, The Message

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

40 Replies

  1. Yes, so true. I love that Jesus meets us where we are at. He told me my word for this year was “Grace”- not a word I would have chosen for myself! But I think it’s more about Him than me. Thanks for sharing this sweet post.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Oooohhhhh….GRACE. That was my word last year and it was beautiful! So exciting to see what He shows you this year!

  2. This post is shot through with such hope and compassion. I love being reminded that new beginnings are not just a once a year thing with our God.l

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you so much Michele! God is in the God business everyday 🙂

  3. Becky, it all comes down to this > “Christ arrives right on time …” Always. So grateful for this hope filled reminder!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Joanne! Hope is a beautiful thing!

  4. Thanks for the reminder that we have less control over our lives than we think. It’s best when we can rest in the thought that God knows what’s best and he is wise enough to bring it all together for our good and his glory.

    1. Becky Hastings

      I only wish it were easier for me to remember!

  5. Becky,
    I might also add, When Life Feels Too Tired for Dreams, since that’s how I feel these days! But your words are a nice reminder that God is at work in every season, whether we’re tired or life feels too hard, and he makes all things new! xo

    1. Becky Hastings

      Oh how I understand that tired season. Whether it’s physical tired or emotional tired. He is there with us, Amen!

  6. God is cheering for us every day.
    Love that!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Me too!

  7. Loved your words today Becky. What a beautiful tribute to Emmanuel! “For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:6-8 ESV

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  8. Oh how I needed this today, Becky. This is the first year in so long that I haven’t set goals or a word for the year. I’m just not in a place to do that right now. Thanks for reminding me how ok that really is and that His dreams for me will still come to fruition and are so much better than mine could ever be.

    1. Becky Hastings

      He’s there, friend. Right in the middle of your unknown place. Remember that you are not forgotten. <3

  9. This is an excellent and sobering truth for me to ponder as I prepare to launch my “Dare to Dream” series. Thanks for making me face some hard realities. Blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Sounds like an exciting series. It is interesting to think how courageous dreaming really is! Can’t wait to read about it!

  10. Such a great call to hope and compassion, Becky! Thanks for sharing this!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Bethany!

  11. This is such an important message. I remember my infertility days. Gosh, they were hard. But looking back I’m so glad God was always with me, leading me to the plan he always had for me. Thanks for linking up at #ThreeWordWednesday.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Maybe if we remember to look back on other hard times to remind us God was always there, it will help us to find him in whatever we’re going through now. So grateful for God’s plan and seeing it come to life 🙂

  12. This is so true- there are times when dreaming just seems to much and all we can do is try to make it through. I love the reminder that we can have a fresh start with God any time- we don’t have to wait for the beginning of a new year.

    1. Becky Hastings

      So, so glad you’re here Lesley! 🙂

  13. Becky,
    This was a fantastic God-appointed message for me. Thank you for being transparently real and encouraging all in one fell swoop. I love that you remind us of His mercy and His well-timed help which is always available. (Heb 4:16).
    I appreciate this so much.

    1. Becky Hastings

      I am so incredibly grateful that you were reminded of God’s mercy and nearness today! Know you are not alone my friend!

  14. Beautiful post, Becky. It can be hard to watch the rest of the world living when you feel paralyzed. Praying for those who need some extra peace this new year. Thanks for sharing. (And, yippee for being one of the winners at my site today! woohoo! Will be in touch soon about that!) Thanks for linking up at #ChasingCommunity, great to see you. ((hug))

    1. Becky Hastings

      Oh that feeling of watching the rest of the world when yours is crumbling is awful. Praying for all of us in those places, that we would fully feel God’s presence. Thanks for the link up! 🙂

  15. I love this: “The Original Dreamer is in your hard place with you.” He never leaves us nor forsakes us. This is my life verse, and I’ve found it true every time.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Isn’t His faithfulness amazing???

      1. Yes and Amen! 🙂 <3

  16. He never forgets our dreams even when we forget them sometimes. Or when we get discouraged. He’s still there. 🙂

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  17. Thank you for this reminder that we are not alone in the hard places.

  18. Hey Becky… I know I left a reply already but God has seen fit to line your sweet words up before my eyes multiple times today and I just wanted to remind you that you have been a big blessing and I am grateful for the reminder to choose God no matter what… to choose to believe His goodness because you have inspired that. Keep shining His light friend!

    1. Becky Hastings

      I love when God uses others to show us who He is. So grateful you’re here, and thank you. A million thank you’s. hugs

  19. Great post with beautiful graphics! Visiting from #dancewithjesus

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Sarah!

  20. I love this, Becky! I always enjoy your writing. I’ll be sharing on social media tomorrow. Thanks for linking up with Grace and Truth.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Aimee!

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