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What To Do When You’re Stuck Between Your Calling and Real Life

It’s easy to feel stuck in real life, even as your mind wanders to big callings. The more we whittle down the simplicity of what God calls us to, the easier it is to walk it out.

As I sit here writing, there is a table full of clutter in front of me, kids playing video games to my left and a clock ticking closer to a dinner that’s yet to be made. Yet I’m still typing.

Believe me, I don’t write that easily. Choosing to do something you feel is important is hard, especially when the demands of real life swirl around you, can feel impossible. It’s easy to do what it looks like we’re expected to do. And sometimes it’s even necessary.

You can’t ignore the laundry forever.

That deadline at work is coming whether you like it or not.

That mailman that insists on coming no matter the weather still brings the bills.

When you're searching for big purpose surrounded by little socks and dirty dishes it can be hard to see clearly. Click To Tweet

But there has to be a balance. We could live our whole lives doing the things that the world expects of us and miss the opportunities all around us. We miss opportunities to love Jesus and love others because we’re so busy getting things in order so we can get to that Jesus stuff later.

Life is never going to be neat and tidy and perfectly ready for you to pursue your calling. You have to pursue your calling right in the middle of real life.

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We’ve gotten to a place where we think so big, we forget about the simplest things God asks of us. If I truly believe it is my job to love Jesus and love others what does that mean for my real life?

Those socks I spent an hour matching? Loving my family.

The mountain of dishes I washed and put away? Loving the people I fed.

The bill I paid? Loving.

I know, it’s easy to dismiss these little things. They can seem so insignificant. But the more we do the little things in love the freer we are to embrace the big things that come our way.

God wants us to love. Your real life is not a barrier to your calling; it is a God designed part of your calling.

Don’t miss it.

How are you pursuing your calling right in the middle of real life?


This is the 3rd post in a series. You can find the other posts here once they go live!

Post 1: Your Calling (in 4 Words)

Post 2: Can My Calling Really Be That Simple?

Post4: Finding Joy in a Simple Calling

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

17 Replies

  1. Becky, I love this : ) Spot on. Brings Luke 16:10 to mind- Be faithful in little. Thank you for bringing the simple truth to the forefront!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks friend! Simple truth is where it’s at 🙂

  2. I can sooo relate to this post, Becky! Love this: “Do small things with big love.” Yes!! People tend to stress the idea of balance, and I believe balance is a good thing, but living intentionally in the small just as we do in the big is also an important component to our contentment. Thanks so much for sharing <3

    1. Becky Hastings

      I hear you! It’s easy to think we are in control of everything, juggling, balancing all the things in life. But when we lay it all down at the cross and ask how can I love God and others with the things right in front of me, it can change everything.

  3. Thank you so much for this reminder – it’s so simple yet so profound and I am prone to forget how the little things I do are ways to show love to my family. I especially love how you said that real life is not a barrier to you calling. So good! Your neighbor at #raralinkup

    1. Becky Hastings

      I’m so glad you came by today Adrienne! It’s so easy to look at the real life things as barriers, isn’t it? But God calls us to life. Real life with Him.

  4. Great post! I can so easily chase the ever-elusive “call” and miss my life that is right at hand. Thank-you!

    1. Becky Hastings

      I think so many of us, especially in Christian circles, can relate. Love God. Love others. So simply complex.

  5. Thanks for posting this! It’s hard sometimes to do what you feel compelled to do without life getting in the way. A great reminder that we aren’t alone in our struggles.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Doesn’t that make a huge difference? The knowing we’re not alone. Game changer!

  6. Great reflections here! It’s a difficult balance to get: to do the small everyday things with great love but at the same time to make time for what we believe God is calling us to rather than only doing what others expect or ask of us.

    1. And this is the second site I’ve just visited where I’ve had problems before and my comment has worked. I’m hoping it’s fixed! Thanks for your help in sorting it out!

    2. Becky Hastings

      It is quite a balance isn’t it? I think the more we walk out those small things we will see those “bigger” callings working themselves out. And so glad to see your comments 🙂

  7. Beautiful post, eloquently gathered words. Girl, you got me. I’m sitting here thinking. It’s been an overflowing-laundry, dishes-piling in the sink two weeks. Oh, to worship the King of kings through it all. Thanks for visiting at Susan Mead’s.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Oh, how that laundry and those dishes never seem to end! 😉 So grateful He’s there when the sink is full or it is sparkly and empty!

  8. Dori P

    i realize my “calling” is what I’m doing right now–that is being a mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend, and neighbor. Sometimes big works sometimes small works for people I love, and random acts of kindness for my neighbors because Jesus loves me and I want to share love with them as evidence of my faith in Christ.

    one important note–you are absolutely correct to say “our life isn’t a barrier to our calling;” I’d only add that our real life IS our calling. Living life to its full is honoring God’s gift of life to us.

    just some thoughts 🙂

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s so great that you can recognize the intertwining of your life and your calling. That’s a gift that not everyone has! I firmly agree that God uses us wherever we are — if we are willing. So grateful you’re here!

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