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How To Be The Church

When we look at our diverse experiences with church we’re often left wondering what to do. We can look at our stories like my story back to the church or other people’s experiences. We can look at what to do in the hard places. And all of that helps. Yet we’re still left with a question.

I’ve thought back on all my experiences and those of people I’ve talked with. I’ve read parts of the Bible and books about the Church. My honest answer to the question of how we can be The Church is probably one you’re not going to like. I say that because I don’t like it sometimes.


We are an imperfect group of believers, and it will stay that way until our wedding day as Bride of Christ in heaven. If we’re imperfect, that means we are going to mess up. Sure, we’re going to get parts right, but we’re going to get a lot of parts wrong too. We’re going to misinterpret, lack understanding, make mistakes, and hurt one another. It’s inevitable. But that doesn’t have to be the only part of our story.

As imperfect as we are as human beings, we are still part of this beautiful body of believers.

We are The Church. No matter how much of a mess we make of it. Our status doesn’t change. That leaves us with the choice of what to do with that mess.

If we can be humble. If we can confess our sins. If we can forgive. All of these things will make it easier, but it still will not solve it all.

The only way to be a healthier, more whole version of The Church is to bring all that we do to the foot of the cross. Nothing we do in our own strength will be enough to earn our status.

The only way to be a healthier, more whole version of The Church is to bring all that we do to the foot of the cross. Click To Tweet

We can have services and outreach and mission trips. We can have ministries and bible studies and conferences. These are all good and Godly things. But if we do them without God we will never be walking in the fullness He desires for His Bride.

The best way to be The Church is to love Him and love others. Yes, that looks messy sometimes. Yes, we will get it wrong. But when we love Him first we are constantly bringing our broken pieces to Him to be loved, forgiven, and reminded of how to love one another.

There is no perfect way to be The Church because we are not perfect. Choosing Jesus in our imperfection is the answer. Always.

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

12 Replies

  1. Hi Becky! You’ve hit the nail on the head. The only way to be the church is imperfectly. I once heard someone say, “There is no perfect church, because the moment you join, it ceases being imperfect!”

    Your fellow linker over at coffee for your heart,

    1. Becky Hastings

      So true Tiffiney!

  2. True. We don’t have to be perfect to be the Church, but accept God’s healing and salvation.

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s the key!

  3. This is so timely for me as our church is in transition and good things are happening. I want to be faithful to fulfill my role in the body!

    1. Becky Hastings

      I’m so glad! Our church has been in transition too. It can be challenging, but the more grace we have the more beautiful it can be!

  4. Constantly bringing our broken pieces — amen. Makes me picture Jesus sitting behind a desk with a long line — as we bring our broken toys to Him and exchange them for grace. — I don’t dislike your answer at all — because with it brings freedom. Imperfectly. I like it. I can do that. I can’t do perfect. 🙂 — Thanks for sharing, Becky. ((xoxo))

    1. Becky Hastings

      I’m awesome at imperfect! 😉 I love your image Brenda! <3

  5. Those closest to us often are the ones who hurt us the most, so it only makes sense for the church to be the same way! I think you’ve offered really great vision in this article on how to strive to love one another without expecting to do it perfectly–or expecting others to do it perfectly!

    1. Becky Hastings

      You’re so right, Jenna. The more we can have grace with one another the better off we will all be. (And thank you for your kind words!)

  6. So true! Your post reminds me of a book by Paul Tripp entitled, Relationships, A Mess Worth Making. We could say the same for the Church, as a whole, couldn’t we! Thanks for sharing. Easter blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      That sounds like a great book! I’ll have to check it out!

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