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19 Things I Love About Being Married

In honor of my 19th anniversary this month here are a few of the practical, mushy, and deep things I love about being married, in no particular order.

1. Events. Knowing who my wedding/work event/party date is. (Bonus: we get to go home together)

2. All the feels. Having someone who sees me and all my big, crazy feelings…and stays.

3. T.V. time. We both like t.v. and movies and for the most part, we watch together. There are a few shows he hates (Grey’s) or I lose interest in (Turn), but overall we enjoy the stories together.

4. Funerals. Never having to go to a funeral alone. We always go together because who really wants to do that alone?

5. Sharing the crap. I know this sounds weird. But sometimes there’s just crap we go through in life. Not going it alone helps.

6. Eating out. I’m terrible at ordering out. Andrew is great at it. He always knows what I’ll love, but neglect to order. Plus, it’s nice to have someone who will let me have some of his fries when I’m trying to make a healthier choice.

7. Arguing. I don’t want to argue with my husband, but it’s going to happen. And knowing that he’s a safe person to argue with and not have to worry about whether he’ll leave or still love me means a lot.

8. Foot warmer. On cold nights I get in bed and reach my cold feet for his warm legs. So much better than wearing socks to bed.

9. Someone to be quiet with. Most of the relationships out in the world require us to be “on” and interact. I can be quiet and still enjoy being with my honey. (And quiet doesn’t come easily for me!)

10. Dreaming. Having kids is great, and I have big, beautiful dreams for them. But the reality is their dreams will take them away from me in many ways. In marriage you get to dream together, and it’s forever.

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11. Plumbing. There are kids in this house and things happen. I usually get to avoid any plumbing mishaps and pass them along. Ditto with general handyman work. And landscaping. And shoveling. And…well, you get it.

12. Rides. Having someone to ride the ferris wheel with makes me happy.

13. Discovering. New places are more fun when we can share them. Sunday drives or new restaurants or a favorite beach are fun when we’re together.

14. Kid Stuff. Sometimes parenting is hard. Other times it’s fun. Having a person to laugh with is great. Going gray together helps, too.

15. Decisions. I’m terrible at making decisions. A sounding board who really knows me helps. A lot.

16. Dancing. He hates dancing. But he’ll always dance a slow song with me. It makes me remember our first homecoming dance. Lady in Red may have been on the playlist.

17. Getting Older. Getting older together makes the wrinkles a little easier to handle.

18. Laughing. There’s a lot of laughter in our relationship. It makes the hard times easier and the fun times even more fun.

19. Being known. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone who knows you.


***I know not everyone is married, for a variety of reasons, and some people have different experiences with marriage. I think it is important to recognize the good, beautiful things about marriage when we have the opportunity. If the subject of marriage is hard for you, please know that your heart is safe here and you are loved. 

What’s something you think is great about marriage (and you don’t need to be married to answer!)

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

15 Replies

  1. YES! Saying amen and thinking that I agree with all 19 and need to come up with an additional 8 to belatedly celebrate my 27th!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Can’t wait to hear what they are 🙂 Happy {belated} 27!

  2. Becky,
    Beautiful summation of your 19 years. I’ve been married (an emotionally and verbally abusive marriage), divorced, single mom, and remarried. Going through this process helps me not just count the years, but to count the days, and the hours. Being given a partner who truly “gets” you and cherishes you anyway is, indeed, a blessings from God. Loved stopping by your place.

    1. Becky Hastings

      What a beautiful gift you have for women in each of these stages. You radiate hope!

  3. Lovely thoughts, Becky! Marriage is beautiful.
    How are you?

    1. Becky Hastings

      Yes, it is! Thanks for checking in 🙂

  4. Such a great list! Happy Anniversary! May God continue to bless, guide, and strengthen your marriage!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Awww…thank you Liz. You’re so sweet!

  5. Hi Becky, this is such a great, REAL list. I can relate…17 years this fall, and we share a lot of these thankful traits. Visiting from #raralinkup.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Real is the only way to get to 19 years! LOL Happy almost 17 to you! 🙂

  6. That’s such a sweet list! My husband and I will be celebrating 17 years of marriage this September. Stopping by from Tuesday Talk. XOXO

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Stefanie! And happy almost 17 years!

  7. Aw, that is such a sweet list! My husband and I will have been married 16 years this weekend but we’ve actually been together since high school. I just love having someone that “gets” me and accepts me for exactly who I am. All the hugs and cuddles don’t hurt either.

  8. Plumbing! I love it. There is nitty gritty stuff to marriage, and that is surely one of them.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Being real 🙂

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