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How Doing Less Helped Me Do More

It sounds all wrong. We think about how much we want to get done. The go, go, go, more, more, more spinning around us, and we try to add one more thing.

I know because I’ve done it, for years. And it was the very thing making me feel like a failure.

Do you ever feel like you have so much to do and you can't get anything done? Maybe the secret is easier than you think! Find out how doing less may be the answer to help you DO MORE!

I was tired of feeling like a failure. Tired of missing out on the things I wanted to do. School wasn’t even out and my summer days were already filling up. It wasn’t what I wanted.

I wanted relaxed days of organic play and rest and sunshine.

I wanted pool time and sandcastles and ice cream cones.

I wanted barbeques and movie nights and sparklers.

But when I looked at my calendar, you’d never know that. They say you can tell what’s important to a person by looking at their bank statement. I think you can tell a lot about a family by looking at their calendar. And I didn’t like what mine was saying.

I wanted to change. 

The thing about change is that no one is going to do it for you. You have to push through all the uncomfortable, swimming upstream, hard work. You are the one who has to think up, initiate and execute the change. 

As I look at my calendar I’ve decided not to add to the chaos.

I’ve written before about how to make summer awesome. And it seems I need to take my own advice. Going back to my best yes, but also consciously choosing to be different. 

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No added camps, no matter how great they are.

No more lessons or sports, even if the other kids are all doing it.

I need to say no so I can say yes. 

Yes to pool and beach and ice cream. Yes to long, spontaneous dinners and sparklers on the lawn. Yes to picnics and reading on the grass and lemonade stands.

It’s okay to say yes, as long as it’s to the right things. When we choose to do less, we get to do more living the life we want to live.

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

18 Replies

  1. Oh my gosh! A voice of reason! Shared happily on Facebook because it needs to said as we are the ones making ourselves and our kids crazy๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ˜‚ Great job and I know you will enjoy your summer๐Ÿ‘Œ

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Gretchen! Choosing to do life differently is the only way to live life differently ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Since I retired two weeks ago, these are things I need to remember all the time now, not just during the summer. Great reminders.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Congrats on your retirement!

  3. Hmmm…. Moving is consuming this part of our summer and I’m sad for my kids, because the things I have to do keep me from saying yes to the things we want to do. Praying by mid-July we can do more of what matters! Blessings!

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s so hard when you’re in a season where choices feel out of your control or busier than you want. Remember that it’s a season friend. Everything matters. Even this move for your family. Embrace the season and look forward with hope to the next one ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Amen, friend. Amen. I’m right there with you, trying to wring out every bit of summer this year, not wanting to surrender any of it to yeses that should have been nos. I pray you and your family have have a wonderfully relaxing summer, Becky. ((xoxo))

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thank you Brenda! Praying the same for your family!

  5. Amen to your post. It was exactly what I needed to be reminded of. I have to admit I have been jealous of all of the young moms that keep talking about leisure summers. My kids are all grown so we don’t have a lot of change as the season come. I think that is a mistake. I year for the days we did pool parties, read books, and went to the beach. Instead, I have said yes to so many things I have no time which makes no sense. Maybe I need to read, The Best Yes for the 3rd time.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Some books are meant to be read over and over! I imagine it must be different for you in the season you’re in. Praying God shows you the best yeses for your season!

  6. I always want to live life like this, especially summer. We have one more week of swim team and then some rest!

    1. Becky Hastings

      REST! Love it! Hope the remainder of swim team went well!

  7. This speaks to me: my 2017 word of the year is less. Do less and be more!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Love it Jerralea!

  8. Yes, yes, yes to the truths here, Becky! ๐Ÿ™‚ “I need to say no so I can say yes.” This is good advice for all of us, summer, winter, spring, or fall.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Lisa! And you are so right about all the seasons!

  9. My mentor use to always encourage me to say no to the good for the sake of the better. Great post. Stopping by from Grace and Truth

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s amazing what a difference it makes! So glad you’re here today Timberley!

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