My Ink Dance

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How Humbling Yourself In Your Time of Need Changes Everything

I am honored to welcome Tricia Goyer today, author of over 70 books, including the recently released, Walk It Out. This book will bring you on a journey of hope and challenge you to actively walk out your faith in your everyday life.

Welcome Tricia!

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The other day I was cooking dinner when my six-year-old son rushed into the kitchen.

Beads of sweat slid down his red face. “I’m so hot. You never get me anything to drink.”

I stirred my spaghetti sauce with one hand as I turned to him. “Excuse me?”

His voice rose in a full, high-pitched whine. “You never give me anything to drink!” He waved his hands and dropped to the floor.

I took in a breath and then released it, telling myself to keep my voice steady, calm. “I’d be happy to get you a drink. I just need you to ask.”

He kicked his foot against the floor. “But I want a drink now!”

“I know you do.” I peered down at him. “And as soon as you ask the right way I’m happy to get some ice-cold water.”

And then my son stood, smiled up at me and asked so sweetly for a drink of water … NOT!

Instead, he whined and fussed more. Finally, I asked him to leave the kitchen.

You know what? He never did ask. In fact, he didn’t get anything to drink until fifteen minutes later when we were sitting down to dinner. He was so bent on complaining and whining—in feeding his discontent—he didn’t want to release his control in order to ask me for help. I would have gladly given him the drink he requested if only he asked in the right away.


Feeding Our Discontent

I wish I could say this is just a little kid issue, but I’ve been there myself. During my teen years I lived in that storm of discontent. I complained when things didn’t go my way. I worried. I fretted. I fought.

I even took matters into my own hands when I found myself facing an unplanned pregnancy at age 15. My own fears and worries led me to a choice I now regret—I had an abortion.

It wasn’t until years later, at age 17 when I was pregnant again, that things took a turn for the better. It’s then I humbled myself and turned to God. By this point I realized the whining, complaining, and acting out wasn’t getting me what I wanted or needed.

At six months along, I wrapped my arms around my growing stomach and prayed, “Lord, if you can do anything with my life, please do.”

Don't miss this story of how God answers when we call from Tricia Goyer!

God showed up big time. He not own gave me Himself (which is the best!), He has also led me on a journey where radical, and wonderful things, have happened. This has included marrying a wonderful Christian man, having two more kids, starting a crisis pregnancy center, mentoring teen moms, adopting seven more children, and writing over 70 books!

God didn’t just offer me a cup of cool water when I asked. He opened the floodgates of blessing. But it took me humbling myself and seeking Jesus to meet my needs.

This reminds me of a Scripture I was reading just this morning, “I called on your name, LORD, from the depths of the pit. You heard my plea: ‘Do not close your ears to my cry for relief.’ You came near when I called you, and you said, ‘Do not fear.’ You, Lord, took up my case; you redeemed my life,” Lamentations 5:55-58.

Mumbling, complaining and griping is easy, but they rob us of having our greatest needs met. Yet when we humble ourselves and turn to God, things will change for the better.

When we call to the Lord, He hears us. When we turn to Him, He comes. When we call to Him, He reminds us that He is present and we have no reason to fear. When we place our needs in His court, Jesus redeems our life.

It took a lot to humble me as a teen—two unplanned pregnancies in fact. Yet I’m thankful that I learned back then that when I turn to God He will meet my needs. He will meet them in more wonderful ways than I ever expected.


You can read more about how God can show up radically in your life in the book Walk It Out: The Radical Result of Living God’s Word One Step at a Time.

Tricia Goyer is a busy mom of ten, grandmother of two, and wife to John. Somewhere around the hustle and bustle of family life, she manages to find the time to write fictional tales delighting and entertaining readers and non-fiction titles offering encouragement and hope. A bestselling author, Tricia has published more than fifty books to date and has written more than 500 articles. She is a two-time Carol Award winner, as well as a Christy and ECPA Award nominee. In 2010, she was selected as one of the Top 20 Moms to Follow on Twitter by Tricia is also on the blogging team at and other homeschooling and Christian sites. In addition to her roles as mom, wife and author, Tricia volunteers around her community and mentors teen moms. She is the founder of Hope Pregnancy Ministries in Northwestern Montana, and she currently leads a Teen MOPS Group in Little Rock, AR. Learn more about Tricia at

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About Becky Hastings

I am emotional and logical. I am strong and dependent. I am a juxtaposition of head and heart exploring it all through writing. And in all my mixed-up ways I am loved. I'm here to tell you that you are, too. Just the way you are.

38 Replies

  1. Thanks for sharing your story. It does make a big difference when instead of clinging to our own way we humble ourselves before God.

    1. Becky Hastings

      It sure does!

  2. May God help us come humbly to Him rather than live with needless pains.

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  3. What a beautiful picture of humility. Thank you for sharing this testimony of our Lord’s love and grace.

    I am still learning this humility. It’s a transformative process the Lord is taking me through and I can see definite steps forward, in His leading. I’m so glad we have the Holy Spirit who guides our deceitful and hardening human hearts into humility and peace in Him alone. I’m so thankful for His patient love and His life-altering grace.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Anna, you wrote this so beautifully! The transformation, the guiding of the Holy Spirit, and His love and grace. All beautiful truths!

  4. Tricia, I have one of those who needs control at all costs and won’t humble himself to ask! Your story is beautiful and so true. When we humble ourselves and ask God for help . . . He’s there, listening, waiting to reach out to us. I am still learning how to walk in humility. I need to remember that humility is crucial, especially in times of need.

    Thanks for sharing a bit of your story here!

    1. Becky Hastings

      Learning right along with you Jeanne!

  5. Mumbling, complaining and griping is easy, but they rob us of having our greatest needs met. – Amen. How much God longs to give us life-filled blessing through himself but we go the hard route.The more we go to him first, in humility, the more natural it becomes. Thank you for this and I was glad to read much about you in the bio too. xoxo

    1. Becky Hastings

      It’s so easy to forget that He longs to bless us and meet our true needs. When we focus on Him it becomes so much easier to see!

  6. Such a powerful story, thank you for sharing! May we humble ourselves before Him today!

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  7. Why is it so much easier to complain and stick to my stubborn way-that is clearly not working? Thanks for the reminders and sharing your story.

    1. Becky Hastings

      I can relate Debbie! So grateful that God’s grace never runs out!

  8. What an amazing story of redemption. Thanks, Tricia, for putting the gospel on display through your life.
    And thanks, Becky, for bringing this new friend to us today.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Isn’t she great?!

  9. I follow Tricia but this is the first time I’ve read her story. Glad we are neighbors today at Jennifer’s!

    1. Becky Hastings

      So glad you’re here Susan 🙂

  10. We all can relate to this: “He didn’t want to release his control in order to ask me for help.” I know I’ve been there (and probably in some small way, every single day). Being able to ask God for help is a gift to us, not a burden. Thanks for sharing your life’s lessons with us, Tricia.

    1. Becky Hastings

      That’s so true Lisa! It is such a beautiful gift!

  11. Tricia, I saw myself in your little boy. I sometimes stomp my fee, whine a bit and wonder why God isn’t helping. So true we need to humble ourselves. When I do that I can see God’s hand in everything.

    Becky – Thank you for sharing this beautiful post.


    Maree Dee

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks Maree Dee. So glad you’re here!

  12. ((Hug)) Love how God can use our obedience to write the hard, vulnerable parts in order to bring about community and healing for others. Looks like a great book, will have to check it out. Thanks for sharing, Becky and Tricia. xoxo

    1. Becky Hastings

      Isn’t He amazing!

  13. It’s so beautiful how God turns pride into a place of humility when we are yielded to Him! Thanks for sharing Tricia’s story, Becky!

    1. Becky Hastings

      So glad you’re here Neca!

  14. Love when we humble ourselves, He always gives to us and often more than we could ever have imagined. Thank you Tricia and Becky!

    1. Becky Hastings

      He sure does, Jill!

  15. Hi Becky! Thank you for featuring Tricia’s story. Tricia, thank you for sharing so transparently. We have similar stories. I, too, was a teen mom and gave my heart to Christ at that time. Walk it Out seems like a book I should definitely read. Your testimony is so encouraging! Stopping over from Arabah Joy.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Tiffiney, I think you will really appreciate Walk It Out. So glad you’re here!

  16. Beautiful story describing us sometimes. We are so involved in throwing our tantrum that we refuse to use our words to ask. We want the other person to change first. Bottom line, I think, we want to win, and win our way. When all along God is watching us with a bemused look on his face saying, just ask, my child.

    1. Becky Hastings

      You are so right Theresa!

  17. Ah … little kid issues untended seem to morph and grow into adult issues. I appreciate your story and the gems of truth tucked within.

    Weekend blessings to you …

    1. Becky Hastings

      Thanks for being here Linda 🙂

  18. I love this! So often the answer is far less complicated than we think! If only we’ll humble ourselves and turn to the Lord, there are incredible blessings! Visiting from Grace and Truth Link-up! 🙂

    1. Becky Hastings

      So true!

  19. Oh how I’ve been mumbling and griping and complaining about a situation in my life. Your words have been an a-ha moment for me. All that griping is based on fear and I’ve tried to fix it myself, when I really just need to draw near to Him and allow Him to work it out in His time. Thank you for sharing so transparently.

    1. Becky Hastings

      Yes, yes, yes! It’s all about that drawing near to Him. I forget so easily too! So grateful for YOUR reminder to me. “Be still and know,” friend!

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